Developing Inner Strength
We can't control how other people act, we can only influence how we respond to it. Because of this, it is best to learn how to develop a sense of inner strength - an inner love and well being for yourself, independent of other people's actions. Now, this is easier said than done, because we often (and accidentally) allow our well being to be in the hands of someone else rather than ourself. It is time that we remind ourselves that our well being can come from ourself instead of someone else. Here's how to do this:
When you are feeling down because of what someone else decides to do (i.e. a significant other or family member), remind yourself that you only have control over what you think. Choose to think highly of yourself. Remember that you are always doing the best you can with the resources you have. Convince yourself that you are doing your best all the time, and choose to love yourself for it. Tell yourself, "I love myself", "I am good enough", and, "I am doing my best and that is enough". Tell yourself thoughts like this over and over again and convince yourself that they are true. Often, you feel the way you do because of the beliefs that you hold about yourself and the amount of love that you give yourself. Most likely, for so long, you have allowed your well being to be in the hands of someone you care about. If they thought highly of you, you felt good. And if not, it was awful. It is time that we place our well being in the only thing we have control over - ourselves. The more that we can do this, the better we will feel in the event of a difficult situation. I am not saying that doing this will replace all negative emotions when we are faced with a difficult situation, but it will certainly help.
Just like any other muscle, the muscle of inner strength needs to be exercised in order for it to be effective. Keep thinking thoughts of self love to yourself, and really believe them! Make it into a morning and night ritual if you need to. Be adamant with yourself to only allow thoughts of self love to live in your mind. Over time, as you do this, it will get easier and easier, and you'll rely less and less on other people to make you feel happy.
If you find yourself having trouble believing thoughts of self love - see my first post: How to Give Yourself the Love You Need to Feel Better.
Best wishes to you and happy self loving!
We can't control how other people act, we can only influence how we respond to it. Because of this, it is best to learn how to develop a sense of inner strength - an inner love and well being for yourself, independent of other people's actions. Now, this is easier said than done, because we often (and accidentally) allow our well being to be in the hands of someone else rather than ourself. It is time that we remind ourselves that our well being can come from ourself instead of someone else. Here's how to do this:
When you are feeling down because of what someone else decides to do (i.e. a significant other or family member), remind yourself that you only have control over what you think. Choose to think highly of yourself. Remember that you are always doing the best you can with the resources you have. Convince yourself that you are doing your best all the time, and choose to love yourself for it. Tell yourself, "I love myself", "I am good enough", and, "I am doing my best and that is enough". Tell yourself thoughts like this over and over again and convince yourself that they are true. Often, you feel the way you do because of the beliefs that you hold about yourself and the amount of love that you give yourself. Most likely, for so long, you have allowed your well being to be in the hands of someone you care about. If they thought highly of you, you felt good. And if not, it was awful. It is time that we place our well being in the only thing we have control over - ourselves. The more that we can do this, the better we will feel in the event of a difficult situation. I am not saying that doing this will replace all negative emotions when we are faced with a difficult situation, but it will certainly help.
Just like any other muscle, the muscle of inner strength needs to be exercised in order for it to be effective. Keep thinking thoughts of self love to yourself, and really believe them! Make it into a morning and night ritual if you need to. Be adamant with yourself to only allow thoughts of self love to live in your mind. Over time, as you do this, it will get easier and easier, and you'll rely less and less on other people to make you feel happy.
If you find yourself having trouble believing thoughts of self love - see my first post: How to Give Yourself the Love You Need to Feel Better.
Best wishes to you and happy self loving!
Every time I read this, I have some takeaway from this. Can't thank you enough for sharing it.
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